MYTH BUSTERS 101

Alright, so even though I vowed not to touch on this (because in my opinion it really is a non issue) I have been forced to speak on it. I attempted to be a journalist and conduct surveys and all but that is not my calling. I don’t have the patience to wait for everyone’s responses nor do I want to interpret the data so I’m just going to go off of what I believe. 

All this poor single Black female business is a ploy by the man! Lol ok not really but let’s stop and take a look at this thing. Let’s break down all the “reasons” we’re single and see how true it is.

1. There is a shortage of "educated" Black men

This may be true in reference to college educated Black men but just because they didn’t attend college doesn’t mean they are not educated. There are plenty of Black men who were in the military or went to some type of trade school. When I was searching for what I would call “suitable bachelors” to give my questionnaire to I found plenty.

Also, when I think about my “circle of friends” from college the amount of girls and guys were equal. When I think about my current “circle of friends” the guys outnumber the girls. All educated (in one way or another) suitable Black bachelors. So…

                 

     

2.  They are marrying others.

While I know this is what they want us to believe I read somewhere that the percentage of Black males who marry outside of their race is very low. Now I don’t remember the actual percentage or source for that matter but once again I’m not a journalist so I don’t care to look it up. But that's what I read so I believe it. On top of that I can’t think of any of my married friends who actually married outside of their race. So I decided to throw acquaintances in there I can only think of one. So once again… idk

3. They have so many options they’re not willing to commit.

I’m going to look at the people I know.  In my college circle of friends one of the guys are married and two are engaged meaning they are willing to commit. There are other guys who want to be married or at least be in a serious relationship and guess what; they too can’t “find anyone”! So… there are guys out there who are willing to commit.

4. Black women are too Picky

I’m not really sure how I feel about this one. One question in survey was what do you want in a man and there were a range of answers. I will admit some of the lists were a little lengthy but not all of them were. I think that is true of all nationalities. I’m sure there are plenty of women of other races who have long lists. So I’m going to say this is not something you put off on Black women, it’s based on personality.

So there you have it. Here are my real life examples that debunk the myth that just because I am a Black professional woman I will either be single for the rest of my life or I will be forced to settle. So ladies don’t believe the hype!