Like A Boy

"What if I had a thing on the side? Made you cry? Would the rules change up? Or would they still apply? If I played you like toy? Sometimes I wish I could act like a boy?” And my favorite part “Can’t be getting mad! What you mad? Can’t handle that?”

Now I don’t necessarily care for the lyrics of this song because I don’t equate acting like a boy to cheating or mistreating someone. I have been accused of acting “like a guy” pertaining to relationships. I have never cheated on anyone and I very rarely mistreat people. I can be however, “emotionally unavailable”, so I’ve been told. But that’s not necessarily the case. It just takes me a while to open up. Just because I’m feeling you doesn’t mean I’m all in to you. If we’re just “talking” and we don’t talk everyday so be it. I’m not going to stalk you. If I call you and you don’t respond I’m not calling you back until you call me. And when we do talk I’m not going to be tripping about how you didn’t call. We’re cool.

Most guys say this is what they want. They complain about how females act but they really like it. As a matter of fact when a girl doesn’t act the way they’re expected to men can’t handle it. Which is why “can’t be getting mad! What you mad? Can’t handle that?” is my favorite part of the song. I’ve had guys complain about me not opening up. I’ve had guys tell me that I’m not soft enough. Me not soft, do you know even me? I guess not because I’ve heard guys say they feel like they don’t know me. My favorite was a discussion with a guy I used to date and we spent a lot of time together. I brought up the fact that maybe we spent too much time together. When he felt like he’d been nice to me for an extended length of time he would start being mean. Plus, we both needed “me” time. So his response was, “Well, when you think I’m going to be mean or when you need “me” time just don’t come over.” My response was, “So what about when you need “me” time?” And he said, “You’re the one talking about we spend too much time together. I never said anything me time. I’m cool.” Talk about role reversal. Every guy can’t have that convo. Even though guys often complain about their girl smothering them, if she suggested they spend time apart they would have a fit.

But why? This is what you really want, so you say. So again why can’t you handle it when the girl acts like you? Why is it a problem when she doesn’t call you every day? Why do you care if she doesn’t care if ya’ll hang out all the time? Or if ya’ll decide ya’ll are just dating so she dates other people as well why are you tripping? I just don’t get that one for real. I mean, when a guy says he’s dating, that’s exactly what he’s doing; dating, which includes multiple people. When a girl is dating she’s waiting on the guy to boo her up. This is absolutely ludicrous! Please believe that while you’re out there not calling me, someone else sure is. When you’re out there hanging out, I’m hanging out too. When we’re dating, WE’RE dating. It’s just that simple. I don’t consider that acting like a guy. I consider that reciprocity.